You let something pass, or it passed by on you; whichever way, it doesn’t matter. Isn’t that fact enough to prove that it wasn’t for you? At least, yet. Or does the lost opportunity exist?
Should you stop beating yourself up about missed chances?
Are you exactly where you are supposed to be?
Is life always a match, and will it meet you wherever you are?
I’ve been thinking deeply about this since last night when a series of curious events unfolded unexpectedly.
I’ll give you some context and then tell you what I realized about it.
So, let’s start with the story:
Out of the blue, unexpected plans to travel to Colombia later this month landed on my lap. I was caught off guard and had to wrap my head around it, as I had been on a ‘self-imposed no travel strike’ since the beginning of the year, cancelling or passing up on various trips.
So, it was around 7 pm, and I sounded something like the following as I spoke to my mom:
These past few days, I’ve been thinking about that opportunity I let pass at the beginning of the year. Was it foolish of me to say no?
Back then, it felt right. I was determined to give myself some grace and space to heal and rearrange my life.
Indeed,
I’m the one who always says to people and clients:
Follow your inner guidance. Follow your own movement.
The Self-Love Journey
Don’t ever go where your heart doesn’t take you. And so on.
And at that time, every cell of my body told me not to go anywhere but home.
With so much change in my life, I needed solid ground below my feet.
So, I heard loud and clear: Stay grounded, stay home.
So, yes. I acknowledge all these.
But maybe as I’ve been feeling …better, should I say? No. No, it’s not the proper word. Perhaps it could be more accurate to say I’m slowly emerging from a cocoon stage or starting to move and look outside the nest I built as a shelter for myself.
My sorter-kind of- feelings revolved around this.
The thought of that previous came to mind, and I wondered:
Did I mess up? Many people are chasing this chance, and I get it and drop it? What was that, girl?
After not considering it for months and being entirely sure about my decision, I thought I should have taken it after all.
Mind is tricky sometimes. It tends to speak negatively to ourselves so often and so quickly.
Luckily, the flip-back self-talk and feeling didn’t last more than a few minutes. I moved on partly because I was going to a birthday party and needed to get ready and partly because I kept on training myself not to hold onto negativity any longer.
Full disclosure: It’s still easier for some topics than for others. Working on the not-so-easy-ones.
So, I connected to this past event, thought and felt what I did, and moved on with my night. I went to my friend’s birthday party and came home around midnight.
I was double-checking my phone to ensure it had no active alarms because I wanted to sleep a little longer on Sunday morning.
A text came in:
A Telegram message popped up:
It was a friend of mine from Denmark (what’s their time zone, by the way?)
She texted something like:
Can you join me in “this” in less than a month?
If you do, please enroll right now.
What was “this” she was talking about?
THE EXACT SAME OPPORTUNITY
I LET PASS MONTHS BEFORE AND WAS REGRETTING ABOUT HOURS AGO
How’s that possible?
I was utterly shocked.
I went over the offer between amazement and astonishment.
Did I jump in?
No, I didn’t.
It still won’t comply with what I need to prioritize nowadays.
I feel I need to get some things going right first.
What boring story are you telling if you are not acting on this anyway, honey?
Here’s what became clear to me and hopefully can be of service to you:
The opportunity is still at a “tunning into it” distance from me. So are yours.
What’s in our lives anyway?
According to the Quantum model of reality, what manifests in our lives is neither what we want nor think we deserve. Instead, it is what we tune into by creating a coherent signal between what we think and feel about, says Dr Joe Dispenza in his book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself and his overall work.
So, if I sent yesterday such a coherent signal that tuned me into that “lost opportunity” from my recent past, just like the original one, that tickles me but didn’t quite work for me.
I ask: What better outcomes can I tune into?
Knowing that’s possible, I marvel at the thought of creating brand-new opportunities that fit everything I need.
Can I, this time, instead of connecting to the past lost opportunity, make contact with a dreamed scenario where everything works in my favour? This powerful idea of ‘tuning into desired outcomes’ is empowering and can make you feel more in control of your life and the opportunities that come your way.
It became clear to me that it is not only possible but necessary.
We never lose anything.
Life will always meet me right where I am.
The moment I felt ‘like going,’ a ‘going opportunity’ arrived.
This comforting notion of ‘life meeting you where you are’ can provide reassurance and alleviate anxiety about missed opportunities.
Life is simple.
You and I need to stop making it hard for ourselves.
I’m devoting myself, more than ever, to calibrating myself more from now on.
I’m learning to give myself some grace.
As tempting as it can be to blame myself for everything I should have, could have, or wrong, especially when redirecting and re-starting too many things nowadays,
I am learning to focus on creating the new instead of fighting and regretting the old.
This process of self-forgiveness can bring a profound sense of relief and a renewed sense of hope, knowing that I can always start anew.
In sum:
You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
Learn to tame your thoughts and emotions to match your desired outcome instead of longing for a lost opportunity in the past. You can always tune into what you want in life.
It’s just one frequency away.
There’s no such thing as a lost opportunity. If you didn’t get something, it’s because it’s not an energetic match for you yet.
What is for you will always find you.
And it will do it at the perfect time.
Forgiving yourself can be a good next step. Here are some articles about it:
Return to life by Self-forgiveness and Forgiveness is for You: It’s a gift to yourself
Learn more about self-forgiveness here.
Does the lost opportunity exist?
