A letter to myself while moving forward

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Moving Forward.

I recently worked with a blogger friend on the topic of self-love. She openly shared her insecurities, and I empowered her to embrace self-love and accept herself completely.

You can read her thoughts on struggling to love herself here. In my responses to this post, I questioned her about whether disliking herself was helping her achieve her goals and encouraged her to embrace herself completely.

We enjoyed working together, so she asked me what I was planning to write about for the upcoming week, and I mentioned my recent article, now already published, about moving forward, which came out this past Monday.

Thus, she suggested we exchange personal letters about what kept us from moving forward. Little did I know, by the time I said yes, that I would end up naked in the paper as I poured my heart out in that letter.
It was a cathartic experience for me, as I discovered some truths I hadn’t realized until I wrote them down. I hope it’s as helpful to you as it was for me.

The realization I had is that my current situation is as follows:

It’s onward or nowhere, my dear.

It ended up being such a profound, deep, and raw letter, as you can read for yourself in my Guest Post: Letter of Self-Love and Strength.

As Per Charli, whom you can find on Facebook, her touching letter is below:

Charli’s letter:

Dear Charli,

You were in middle school when your friend decided she didn’t want to be friends with you anymore. You saw clues to the end of the friendship. She no longer wanted to eat lunch with you anymore. But you were still hurt when she told you she no longer wanted to be friends. This friendship meant a lot to you. When you met your friend, she was new to the school. She quickly took a liking to you. It meant a lot to you that you were her first friend. She made new friends. And it was evident that her time as your friend had finished. You tried to ignore the signs and hang on desperately to this friendship.

It was the first close friendship you had ended this way, and it wouldn’t be the last. It was a significant blow to your confidence. You couldn’t help but wonder what was wrong with you and ask yourself what you did to cause the friendship to end. Every time a friendship ends, you can’t help but think back on that time in middle school. You can’t help but think people are judging you, and you end up judging others in return. You assume they won’t like you immediately, and you try to guard yourself from being hurt.

She tells herself:

I’m here to tell you, Charli, everyone, including you, is lovable. There is nothing wrong with you. You are beautiful inside and out. For those who can’t see that or don’t want to take the time to see the beauty inside you, that is their loss. Also, focusing on the people who are uninterested in you and the lost friendship will only drain your energy.

You should focus your energy on those who love and cherish you, and I am sure you have more people who appreciate you than you notice. Moving on from past hurts is not easy, but letting the past control your present and future becomes a problem. There is not much you can do about the past.

That old friendship is over and done. You can, however, do something about your present and future. You can start by opening your heart to new friendships. It might not be easy letting people in; it means being vulnerable, but that is how love works. I wish you all the best with working towards letting go of the past so you can see the bright present and future before you.



I honor us and you who read for daring to look within lovingly and understand our moving forward journey.

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I'm Arlene, the blogger behind "The Self-Love Journey."My path to understanding life has led me to realize life is a mirror that reflects what you hold dear.Thus, a life you love can only come from the love within. Its absence may lead to all sorts of unwanted results and perceived troubles, but its presence has the power to transform your world.Through exploring life's functioning, human consciousness, energy healing, and philosophical and mystical traditions, I'll guide you to uncover and overcome everything keeping you from loving yourself.One of the tools on which I rely in this process is Systemic Family Constellations, a therapeutic approach that helps to reveal hidden dynamics within a family or other social system.Here to lead you to self-love and create a life you love.Nowadays, I am a systemic family constellation practitioner, healer, and trauma student, and I occasionally consider myself a Civil Engineer M.C.M.I'm also a Free-spirit wanderlust, a mystic girl who loves beauty, nature, laughter, books, optimism, and, of course, loves love.

17 comments / Add your comment below

      1. This could be my story. I had several best friends in high school and was dropped more than once in favor of someone “better.” As a young girl, this can’t help but affect your sense of self- worth when you don’t yet understand how people change and evolve at different stages in life.

        1. Of course, all of these experiences leave traumatic imprints on us.
          Fortunately, healing is achievable with the support provided across this blog, including information on the posts, as well as through the services and programs offered.

  1. Such a great heartfelt post. It’s extremely to write from that vulnerable state. Stay encouraged and take Arlene’s advice. We cannot control other people’s choices, but we can control how we react to those choices. I would also suggest reciting positive affirmations each day and posting inspiring quotes around your writing area. Always aspire to improve and love yourself. ❤️

    1. We should always examine if some of our behaviors may have alienated or hurt the person leaving. Self-observation and awareness are crucial for personal growth.

      But at the end of the day, when someone leaves this way, they do us a favor by saving us time and energy. Their absence is better than staying in an inauthentic way for years. They are showing us that they are no longer an option for us among the 7 billion people worldwide. This forces us to explore the remaining 6,999,999.

  2. Breaking up with a friend is actually more hurtful than breaking up with a lover. I experienced this a lot of times during my younger days. But as I grow older, I realised that all this happened for a reason. It’s all God’s plan. And now breaking up doesn’t worry me more.

  3. Hello my loved one I want to say that this post is amazing great written and include almost all significant infos I would like to look extra posts like this

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