Thinking out loud about grief: When you lose someone or something, you might be faced with deep emotions that drown you.
While I was looking for information on the subject, both for personal consumption and to better help my clients in my private practice as a systemic therapist, I recently came upon this lovely reflection on grief published on the GOODREADS website and blog:
GRIEFBy Jamie Anderson. A profesional gold medal Olimpic winner snowboarder.
I’ve learned that it’s really just love.
It’s all the love you want to give but cannot.
All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest.
Grief is just love with no place to go.
I know, I know—at the end of the day, I’m a bit of a romantic, aren’t I?
Anyway, I kept thinking about it. By now you already know how it goes with me at this point, right?
I wondered about it for a while and came to the conclusion that is simply not true.
We think that our love has no place to go, and
It’s not true.
Above all, we suffer because of the lies we tell ourselves about it. Perhaps we don’t understand yet the nature of love itself.
We are failing, because we think that the love we feel is caused by an external cause. The object of our affection, the other person…
And maybe because of that, we are failing by thinking that love has nowhere to go any longer.
Love comes from within.
It’s a frequency at which you are vibing. Something you emanate or emote, and direct towards someone or something.
And what’s the point? What’s the difference it makes? You might be wondering…
Well, If you are grieving the physical loss of a loved one, let’s say, you became conscious of the fact that the love you feel for them comes from within you: you can keep loving them, sending love, sharing love, and honoring them in your daily lives.
You’ll still miss them, of course, but love will flow instead of being stuck or stagnated. Same with people that are no longer in your life for any reason. And I mean ANY REASON. Keep loving them…
If you succeed in doing so, love can become a thriving force in you, instead of a burden.
At the end of the day, love is who you are. You can turn all that love inward and radiate it all around.
Imagine how beautiful life can become if you practice this.